Simple, profound truths are the realm of this Buddhist nun. Her message? The gift of happiness truly lies within our own hearts and minds. Gen Kelsang Nyema, exuding a peacefulness that immediately connects with the audience, starts by asking three questions: Are you having a good day? Why? Tomorrow, would you rather have a good day or a bad day? She teaches that we cannot put our happiness at the whim of other people and of circumstances. If we want to be happy, we have to “stop outsourcing our happiness to other people” and cultivate a source of inner peace. What happens next is quite astounding. The whole crowd of 350+ people proceeds to meditate with Nyema. There’s a little squirming at first, but as she leads the audience through a calm citation of how to rest the mind, audience members feel a collective relaxation flow into the room and through the people. Fascinating! Refreshing.

This talk was part of TEDxGreenville UNZIPPED, held April 11, 2014, at the Kroc Center in Greenville, South Carolina. For more information about Gen Nyema and her co-presenters, please visit http://tedxgreenville.com/2014presenters

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45 replies
  1. Musa Khan
    Musa Khan says:

    nonsense to nonsense! leaving one monasticism, that drove people seeking benefit behind 100% infallibility of popes, to another monasticism seeking benefit behind 100% infallibility of the lamas! the common excuse of monastic priests is divine bloodline, dreams and places, and then get high status in that society with the "sacred" books silent on the punishments of crimes! just cuz someone says so and no punishments if someone steals or robs!

  2. jolene weiss
    jolene weiss says:

    worship the true God who gives genuine happiness —
    (Galatians 5:22) . . .the fruitage of the spirit is love, joy,. . .

    (Proverbs 8:34, 35) . . .Happy is the man that is listening to me by keeping awake at my doors day by day, by watching at the posts of my entrances. 35 For the one finding me will certainly find life, and gets goodwill from Jehovah.

    (Psalm 83:18) . . .That people may know that you, whose name is Jehovah, You alone are the Most High over all the earth.

    (Psalm 33:12) . . .Happy is the nation whose God is Jehovah,. . .

  3. Diana Maria
    Diana Maria says:

    When I'm calm the feeling is good but I can't say I'm really happy is just a peaceful statement, when I'm happy I'am not really calmly I become somehow active and I feel like doing things and talk to people and run and dance. She is good to hypnotize my paranoia to go away and after that I can start dancing in the rain 😀

  4. Lindylou Learmonth
    Lindylou Learmonth says:

    I must stop outsourcing my unhappiness!  Mmmm so its my job to make me happy, not your fault for making me unhappy. I need to cultivate inner peace and happiness.  I commit to this… real causes of happy/unhappy feelings cannot be found, outside of the mind. It is a response to external happenings. Meditation is key. I need to be in a constant peaceful, positive state of mind  and be a being of inner pure clean clear white light radiating out to others. Thankyou Namaste.

  5. AndreCoelhoMatos
    AndreCoelhoMatos says:

    If she was in my shoes and talked to my boss at that pace she would get fired the first day and be pretty unhappy…
    -did you finish that report? C’mon I don’t have all day
    -the – report – won’t – make – you – happy 🙂
    – fired!!!

  6. Bigasstbone
    Bigasstbone says:

    Been having a few difficult years and battling major depression ever since Elysabeth ruined my life! All I wanted was love! However when she learned I was poor and unable to help her podcast career or boost her social status she dis-owned and shunned me. She's been with a much older man who has a lot of money. (she didn't grow up poor herself) and they have an expensive home in Los Angeles and travel the world. She has happiness because she has all the entitlements money can buy. She didn't care how she hurt me or lied to me. She's never paid a karmic debt and boast constantly about her status and fancy lifestyle. I feel hurt and devastated because I all I could give her was unconditional love. I feel bad because I am not a wealthy or successful person and I could not make her happy because no matter what I could not buy her love. I don't know how to get over this.

  7. ICTech
    ICTech says:

    This is all so simple when you have no or very little responsibilities. When you HAVE to go to work, when you HAVE to deal with a terrible boss, commute with a ton of jerks, you are not as ZEN as you suggested to be. Slowly i'm losing my buddhist faith as this is an unreal expectation for current conditions of life. If you have to grind and pound to get through the day, of course your going to not be happy, but when you HAVE TO do these things to survive, life isn't all smiles and peaceful. Great on the outside, but not realistic for the people that dont have the choice of walking away from it all, or don't have it all…..

  8. videoschmo
    videoschmo says:

    Short version: 1) stop attributing our happiness to what is going on externally and blaming others when we're unhappy. Happiness and unhappiness are states of mind, and therefore their causes cannot be found outside the mind. 2) Find a source of peace and happiness from inside our own mind by meditating.

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