4 Steps To Giving Killer Compliments That People Crave

As I work around the country on a weekly basis, I am convinced that we as people are starved for compliments! When was the last time you received one?




This past weekend I was on a layover in the Atlanta airport. I was standing in line to get some food at a Mexican restaurant. Before I told the lady what kind of burrito I wanted, she smiled big and said, "I like your shirt!" I was caught off guard. "Oh..thanks," I said. I continued on in the line. The last lady who then rang me up for my meal then said, "That's a cool shirt." Again, I was caught off guard, but I noticed an intant confidence boost. Since I designed my Don't Hit Bikes shirt brand, I was proud. I told the lady that I appreciated that. The warmth of the staff made me enjoy my burrito all the more! 

We know how good compliments make us feel, yet why are we so slow to give them out? I'm going to share with you 4 steps you can take today to give compliments that others will crave. 

1. Be Aware Of Opportunities

We must first be aware of people and the good they are doing as we go about our day. If we are living Genshai (A word from India that means; "To never treat another person in a manner that would make them feel small") than you will naturally see these opportunities. 

2. Look The Person In The Eye

When giving someone a compliment, you need to make the effort to look them in the eye. How are they going to know it is intended for them? Looking people in the eye lets them know you mean it.

3. Be Specific

Tell the person specifically what you like about them. For example, if you are telling someone they have a great laugh, you might say, "You have a great laugh. It uplifts everyone around you and makes them smile!" 

4. Ask A Question To Finish It Off

Ask the person a question to show that you are sincerely interested and that you back up what you just said. In continuing our last example about the person's laugh, you might ask, "Do a lot of other people tell you that your laugh is contagious?" 

Alvin Soon said, "A compliment is like a gift, if someone doesn't want your gift you'll still end up owning it. The best way to accept one is also like a gift, just say 'Thank You.'" Start practicing the art of giving sincere compliments today. Make a goal to give compliments to 3 different people. The beautiful thing? You can't compliment people and start NOT noticing more of the good in you as well!

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Comment by Michelle VanderMeer on February 9, 2012 at 11:33am

Excellent tips.  I'll use them today!

By the way, I checked out your Don't Hit Bikes shirt design.  The ladies from the Mexican restaurant were right.  It is very cool.

Comment by Robyn Webb on February 15, 2012 at 11:46pm

Hey Brock! Awesome article! It is so easy to just cruise through the day, not noticing anything special about those around us. Thanks for the reminder to pay attention! (And I too love the shirt!)

Comment by Melissa Lyles on February 16, 2012 at 6:29am
Love this Brock!!
Comment by Sherry Haney on February 21, 2012 at 2:40pm

This is excellent! Thank you for reminding how important these little things are.

Comment by Sherry Haney on February 27, 2012 at 8:24am

Brock, I just wanted to thank you again for this reminder. I made a concerted effort all week to compliment someone and focused on something that was natural to them, not on something they had done. For example, I complimented someone on how how pretty their hands were, someone on how pretty their gray hair was, etc. The look in their eyes was that of satisfaction and acceptance. Thanks again.!!!

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